sinsitykitty

I apologize now but I need to vent…

I am not a mean person...or a controlling person. I am a caring friend, sister, wife and mother. I love my family and will protect it fiercely!! That being said, I don't like being threatened or someone thinking that they can control the decisions made in my life (for ME or my family). Time will heal any wounds that are there….not being forced into making a decision. 

I was completely willing to listen and accept any apology that you had and I might still be willing to accept it BUT…let me clear the air.

1)      I do not respect you (you have no sense of boundaries for family or what that WORD means)

2)      I will never forget/forgive you for talking to my husband like that. You are a father and failed to act like one. Also on that note – you are a father of a grown man with his own family. Your rein of control over him and his decision making is over. If you want a relationship with him. Try being a friend to him. If you do decide to take this advice, please know that any reciprocation of friendship from him will be his choice. I have spent the last 7 years of my life trying to get him to stay connected to his family but HE has made it very clear how he feels. I understand that there is some misunderstanding throughout your family that I am to blame for this and have become accustomed to the idea. You would be dead wrong but I’ll take whatever rumors and lies you have if it still leaves a chance to connect with that side of his life.

3)      You insulted me and my husband as people and as parents (on the second part…look in a mirror)

4)      You are not my son’s father. He has one…and he is better then you will ever be! At least MY son doesn’t feel worthless or like he’s a disappointment.

5)      You lack of respect for my marriage and the PARTNERSHIP that we have blows my mind. I was raised that a husband and wife are equals and have respect for one another. And while yours seems to be played out differently (ie: “me MAN, you lil woman”) and has worked for you…please back off and allow each their own.  

6)      I am a female with a brain…yes they exist. I have opinions and ideas that are at times better then a man’s.   For you to imply that I am any less then what I am, intellectually, shows how little you mind is and what you are open to. 

7)      While most people on this planet have experimented with drugs at one point or another (and I feel it should be mentioned that this said experimentation usually takes place when you are an adolescent and don’t know any better…not by a grown man!) …you’re use of any illegal (or prescribed) substance when my child is anywhere near you is UNEXCEPTABLE!! I have known for a long time that you are a user but bit my lip because I believed you were smart enough to refrain from such asinine actions around a child. THAT IS MY FAULT…I WILL NEVER PUT ANY TRUST IN YOUR ABILITY TO THINK OF MY CHILD’S SAFETY FIRST AGAIN.

8)      It has been over a year since I saw you last, and I am completely ok with it continuing in this fashion. I do not respond to threats. Never have and never will. That being said…you should know something. Your threat of “If you don’t let me see Caleb its gonna cost you more then what the settlement gave you” is extortion 

(http://encarta.msn.com/encyclopedia_761569323/Extortion.html ) Extortion, any form of taking or obtaining property from another person by means of illegal compulsion or oppressive exaction. In common law it is defined as a crime committed by an officer of the law, who, under cover of office, unlawfully takes any money or other valuable. In many states of the U.S., the term is still so defined by legal statutes. In other states, the statutes define the term in its broader sense to include the obtaining of property from another through a wrongful use of force or fear, or by pretense of right. The term is also used synonymously with blackmail, such as, for example, the extortion of money from a person by threats of exposure of wrongdoing. The crime of extortion is punishable by fine and imprisonment and subjects the offender to removal from office.

In the U.S., the Federal Extortion Statute of July 8, 1932, makes it a criminal offense to use the mails for the purpose of extortion.

If you would like a chance to be in my family’s life then do not force this issue. Let if unfold naturally and with respect for all those involved. I have already spoken to a police officer and plan on talking to a lawyer.   With your drug use, threats, and temper…there is no judge is his right mind that would allow you to be alone with my child. Furthermore, any more threats and ultimatums, or harassment will be met with a restraining order. And any small chance that the time apart has created for healing and for you to be in my son’s life again will disappear never to see light again.

April 27, 2009

1. Gemini (5/21-6/21)

   Getting into a long conversation with an intellectual heavyweight will be entertaining and enriching for you today -- and nowhere near as intimidating as you fear. You have just as much to bring to a conversation as this person does, in fact you might even have more. It's time to stop selling yourself short and assuming that your ideas aren't relevant. You two come from different sides of the street, but that street is going in the same direction. Open up and share your honest opinions.